Why do we stress about things we can’t control?

It’s a default for most of us to react negatively and place blame when a situation does not go as planned.

It’s easy to become upset when:

  • Our doctor does not give the time, attention or answers we were hoping for.
  • The medicine you were prescribed is not making you feel any better.
  • A world-wide pandemic instantly changes our normal routine.
  • Your gym closes indefinitely.
  • The economy is causing unwanted stress.
  • The weather is less than favorable for the umpteenth day in a row.

But focusing on what you cannot control is NOT a good use of your time because guess what, your negative emotions will not change a darn thing. It will only change your mood for the worse and likely the moods of those around you.

In addition, placing blame on things you never had control of to begin with only stunts your opportunity to grow and adapt in that moment. Stop playing the blame game, the only person you are hurting is yourself.

The reality is there are more things out of our control than within our control (see the Spheres of Control image below).

The sooner you accept that and make peace with it, the sooner you can shift your focus to the things you can control. Then work towards mastering those things:

  • Eating more whole, unadulterated foods.
  • Moving your body in ways you enjoy and doing it often.
  • Going to bed earlier.
  • Drinking more water.
  • Speaking more words of love to yourself.
  • Respecting your body.
  • Buying clothes that make you feel confident and comfortable.
  • Spending more time outdoors.
  • Praying more.
  • Being present with your family.

Your health journey and weight loss journey will be supported when you invest your energy into the things you have the most control over. Give yourself an edge and allocate your time and efforts wisely. I promise this will make you a happier and healthier person in the long run.

It absolutely did for me!

My energy is spent on what matters, what I can control. Everything else is learning how to react and adapt one day at a time.

The only way to successfully create lasting change is through building a foolproof system. It takes time and effort but it’s a million times better than trying another “quick fix” fad diet only to fall victim to the yo-yo dieting cycle where you’re losing the SAME weight over and over and over again. That’s madness. I’m sure you can agree and don’t want that for yourself. I don’t want that for you either.  

So what sounds better? Investing time to purposefully create a strong mental foundation that will create a resilient you? Or falling back into comfortable old habits that have failed you repeatedly in the past?

That’s right, the former, I’m glad you agree 😉

  • Mindset is defined as: the established set of attitudes.
  • Attitude is defined as: a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person’s behavior.
  • Psychology defines attitudes as a learned tendency to evaluate things in a certain way.

So how do you view yourself and your to change? How you feel about yourself will be displayed in your actions.

Here’s why mindset is E V E R Y T H I N G when it comes to weight loss (and other changes you wish to make):

Once you work on shaping your mindset, it’s much easier to create an environment that encourages health: the foods you buy at the grocery store, who’s in your support system, what you read online or watch on TV, how you react to stress, etc.

Beneficial habits are easier to create when a healthy environment has been established. What you choose to eat, how often you exercise, your bedtime routine, how you decompress, etc.

Building from the ground up by starting with mindset will allow you rely less on willpower, which is fleeting and unreliable.

Your will stand the test of time because you have first changed how you view your life, your health, your habits, you daily routine, etc. The things that previously derailed your progress will no longer phase you. You built a mindset that will endure, meaning YOU will endure.

And that’s what we all want, right?